Other tidbits about my work: I specialize in attachment-science informed individual and couples therapy. The clients in my office are here to do beautiful but hard things because we are gonna get sh*t done. I’m not just interested in behavior change or word vomiting about the “problem of the week” - you can do that with your friends. We’re gonna look at what hurts, the self-doubts, the awful talk tracks you can’t get rid of, or the really stuck places in your relationship where no amount of communication or “trying hard enough” seems to cut it. We’re gonna work hard to understand “What on earth happens here with me (or us)?” and figure out what gets in the way of being the fullest version of yourself or having the relationship you and your partner long for.

Note: If you’re here for LMFT-supervision or EFT-supervision - click on the links below

post-graduate supervision to LMFT-As

EFT supervision

Click here to contact me to see if we’re a good fit for either supervision type.

True story: I grew up in a pretty liberal area of NC but I was deeply involved in a rigid, hierarchical, mostly White brand of evangelical Christianity and from an early age, I knew -

Something.

Didn’t.

Add.

Up. 

So, when I started calling it out, asking questions, using my voice - SURPRISE - some of that didn’t go well (#shocked).

Along the way, I went back to grad school and figured, “There has to be something I, WE, can do. Maybe I’ll work with families and kids to help create change.” I thought I was meant to help people change (I know - eye roll.), but I didn’t realize this - 

WE ALL HAVE WHAT WE NEED WITHIN US TO FLOURISH. 

We aren’t broken. 

We’re not born sinful. 

You don’t need anyone to save you. 

And you most certainly don’t need my opinions and me acting like another (white) Savior who tells you more of what you need - YOU NEED YOUR EMBODIMENT AND THE SECURITY OF THE RELATIONSHIPS AROUND YOU TO HELP YOU GET THERE. 

Therapy is just one of many vehicles that can support this change process. 

Moreover, when I look around, I see that we - as a community in the Upstate and Nation (just pop over to any social media platform and read the news’ comments - it’s a veritable sh*t show of general gross behaviors) have forgotten who we are.

“We are linked, not ranked.” (Thanks, Gloria.)

Moreover, my partner is Chinese-American and we’re raising kids who are both Chinese-American and White - and, when I participate in my own healing work and community healing work, the world is a bit safer for my little family to show up and brave to be their self. 

I wish you the same things for my family - as an individual - and for your relationship and for your family. I want you to find the things that block you from experiencing secure attachment and a deep sense of belonging to yourself and your community - whether the block is internal, trauma, past experiences, parts you haven’t yet welcomed within yourself, or the block comes from outside systems of oppression (racism, misogyny, patriarchy, ableism, prejudice, homophobia, transphobia - you name it - we know it’s there and I know it’s hurting the most marginalized and it affects the rest of us, too). 

Here’s the thing - this *gestures around wildly* is bigger than therapy. When people leave therapy, having done their work, they invite others to be the fullest versions of their self.

We need more of that.

Will you join us in being part of a community that is HEALED? Let’s create a community where there is room for all of us.

“There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.”― Desmond Tutu

Safety and brave spaces:

I’m not perfect, and even though my tiny family is interracial, I acknowledge that I live in a white, cishet, physically able, neurodivergent female body. Which means, I’m going to get it wrong. However, I am committed to on-going learning, repairing when I misstep or cause harm, and un-learning. 

If you’re a client who identifies as -

Queer/LGBTQIA+

Poly

(Who practices) Kink / BDSM

BIPOC

Differently abled

Neurodivergent 

Non-Christian or other spiritual practice 

(Financially) Underesourced

You have the right to therapy in a brave space. My endeavor is to provide non-hierarchical, anti-oppressive therapy. Please message me if you have questions about how I do this in session or if you need referrals for therapists who share your identity(-ies). Let’s get shit done. 

I’m cheering for all of us.

 Acerca de la dueña (ella/su)

Yo soy terapeuta bilinguë de terapia familiar, de pareja, e individual (en el estado de Carolina del Sur, no. de licencia 6974; LMFT-S no., 8304). Soy de Chapel Hill, NC y me gradué en 2006 de la Universidad de Elon con dos especialidades - la psicología y el español. En el año 2011, yo regresé a la escuela para sacar mi maestría en el area de terapia de pareja y de familias con la Universidad de Carolina del Este (East Carolina University), a cuál está acreditada con el COAMFTE). Yo recibí el entrenamiento extensivo y riguroso en la terapia de familias, de matrimonio, y de parejas (¡más de 500 horas de la terapia viva con las parejas y las familias y además cientos horas de supervisión! Era increíble y agotadora.) y también hice una práctica con un enfoque en el cuidado médico integrado y bilingüe. Me gradué en el 2013 como una estudiante de honor y desde la completación de mi programa, yo me contraté con unas agencias privadas y operadas por el gobierno para atender a las familias, los/las individuales, y las parejas.

Yo me especializo con las poblaciones siguientes: las parejas, las familias con los adolescentes, attender a las personas con la depression y/o la ansiedad, y brindar servicios a la comunidad hispana y/o Latina. Yo me considero una terapeuta que afirma la comunidad de personas a quienes identifican como LGBTQIA+.

Sobre todo el trabajo que hago, mi PASIÓN es mi trabajo con las parejas. Ahora, soy certificada en la TFE (como terapeuta y supervisora) y mi deseo es continuar mejorarme en mi profesión para servir a mis clientes. Cuando no estoy trabajando, a mi me gusta pasar tiempo con mi familia, comer comida rica, pasar tiempo afuera de mi casa, leer un buen libro, y viajar a conocer a destinos nuevos. Soy miembro de las organizaciones de AAMFT y SCAMFT.