EFT Supervision

Hi. Maybe you’re here for supervision and you’re thinking:

I really want to grow in EFT but how do I do this?

I’ve done all of the required EFT trainings but where do I even begin with certification?

I like EFT as a model but I’m overwhelmed when I think about using it with an actual couple. HELLLPPPP.

I work with historically marginalized clients or I myself am part of a historically marginalized people group. How can you provide a brave space for me and my clients??

I want to work with couples but I haven’t done any formal training. What should I do??

Whew. Couples work is a wholeeeeee other thing in itself. If you attended EFT trainings, I bet those turned your world and your mind upside down, didn’t they? You found people, like you, who want to do client work really well and now you have 238 questions about how to apply EFT now.

I’m also betting that you didn’t just learn about the EFT map for clients, but I bet those trainings opened up parts of you that you weren’t expecting - about your own attachments, what you saw growing up in your home, how you see yourself, how you experience your partner, or even made you think about the type of partner you want or type you want to be.

Or maybe you didn’t feel so much overwhelmed as the trainings galvanized a part of you to do attachment and experiential work really well and you’re eager to learn more (that was me!).

Or, maybe you walked away from training thinking, “Damn. That’s a really white, cis, hetero space. Where do I even fit in as someone who doesn’t identify like that? Is there even space for me in this model and within this community?”

Or perhaps you’re thinking, “I know I want to work with couples but my grad program didn’t really prepare, and neither did my first post-grad job. Where am I meant to learn to do this?!”

It. Is. A. Lot. Of. F*cking. Questions. Is your brain whirring?

However you may feel about the EFT model and community - you are welcome here. Whether you’ve done any EFT trainings or you’re brand new to the model, you’re welcome here. I want to speak to how want to come alongside of you as you grow yourself - and you will - your skills as a therapist, your self-of-therapist stuff, and more.

So, what kind of work can we do together in EFT supervision?

I’m so glad you’re asking yourself and me that and here’s what I want you to know about me as a certified EFCT supervisor.

I want to create a space where you can be fully human AND bring your stuck places, doubts, questions, and frustrations as a therapist. Yes, we will learn couple therapy skills with the EFT map (i.e., the tango, TEMPO, stage 1 and 2 and 3) BUT I know that you’re also a person, learning about your own attachment systems and I can guarantee those will get pinged doing this work. Mine still do. I want to help you be fully yourself as a human and as a therapist, while helping clients do the same. And yes, we’ll figure out the model and certification, and all that other important stuff too.

EFT has afforded me a way to really understand myself - my pain is held, my protections make sense, and I know I am innately good. I try to see the world and people around me with the same generosity - innately good, protected at times, and worthy of belonging and love. In this model I have found deep friendships, incredible mentors, life-changing learning and un-learning, and I want to create a space for you to experience something you deserve too. Are you ready to join me in this?

(Note: If you are a newly graduated MFT and you need to start working on post-graduate licensure hours as an LMFT-A, not EFT supervision, click here. I offer that too!)

Here’s the not so fun, but important stuff you should know about me -

-I’ve been a therapist for 10+ years and have used EFT (sometimes not so well!) since learning the model in grad school back in 2012.

- I began pursuing certification in EFT in 2019 and more intensely in 2021, once we all re-emerged from the pandemic. (Weird times, amirite?!). I am now a certified EFT therapist (across all three of its modalities) and a certified EFCT supervisor.

-I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist and LMFT-S (supervisor) based in Greenville, SC USA.

- I’m fluent in Spanish and offer client sessions and supervision in Spanish.

-I’m white, cis, and hetero but I work to be both an ally and anti-racist and I get supervision of supervision so I can create a braver space for clients and clinicians alike (I’m also a LMFT-Supervisor in SC - so, lots of sup of sup!). I have a lot of experience working with clients who identify as BIPOC, as members of the LGBTQIA+ community, clients who are CNM (consensually non-monogamous / poly folx), and with clients who are neurodivergent.

-I’m getting supervision regularly to make sure I can come alongside anyone wanting to learn EFT but haven’t always felt safe to be the fullest version of their self alongside of people who look like and/or identify the same as I do (in terms of socio-cultural identity, gender identity, sexual orientation, ability, etc.).

• If you’re ready to chat to see if we’re a good fit for EFT supervision (individual and/or group), send me an email here.

• Note: I offer differing forms of supervision. (Individual, 60 min. $175; Dyadic, 60 min. $90 per person; Group, up to 6 persons max., for 80-90 min., $65 per person)

Resources for learning EFT:

So, you’ve made it this deeply into my website and I want you to leave with *something*, so here’s what I recommend if you’re just getting started with EFT or you want to keep sharpening your skills.

1. Lorrie Brubacher’s book - "Stepping into EFT: 2nd Ed." (the 2nd edition goes a great job with weaving in EFIT seamlessly as well as addressing sociocultural lens and issues around race, identities, etc.); this is the book I have used to teach the model to graduate students. This is hands down, one of the best EFT model books to understand its theoretical underpinnings, learn the TANGO, the steps/stages, microskills, etc. Very easy to read.

2. Dr. Sue Johnson’s book, “The Practice of Becoming an Emotionally Focused Therapist” and accompanying workbook - this comes loaded with a breakdown of the model as well as paired practices for newer EFT therapists.

3. EFT Café - Hosted by Dr. Katheryn Rheem (an EFT trainer emeritus) and Jen Olden (an EFT supervisor and experienced clinician) - enrollment open up 1-2x per year with access to a TON of EFT resources including session clips; free office hours for members; "help me now" clips, a catalogue of topics going far back - and more. There are a ton of FREE videos on its public YouTube channel.

4. The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast: the Art, Heart, and Science of EFT. My dear friend and colleague started this podcast with our EFT mentors - Dr. Silvina Irwin and Michael Barnett (who co-lead the LA Center for EFT). The way they break down the model, tango, stages, etc., BRILLIANT. So so accessible.

5. EFT Tango Class with Michael Preston - Michael teaches the tango in stages 1 and 2 - with role plays and video clips from his sessions, with examples of "green light" enactments and then "red light enactments" (i.e., blocks in stage 1, with inter-relational reactivity vs. intrapsychic blocks in stage 2 enactments). As one cohort finishes, he starts another class.

6. EFT with Black couples and diverse voices - Dr. Paul Guillory is doing incredible work with couples and clients of color, using EFT with a multicultural lens. See his website here. Dr. Robert Allan is doing a lot of trainings specific for persons who are LGBTQIA+; see here for his offerings.

   There are WAY more resources I could list, but this is a great place to start.

   **Note: It’s not lost on me that most of the persons referenced in this list are white, cishet. If you’re wondering, “Okay, cool cool cool - what about me? I’m in a differently identifying body…(neurodiverse, poly, kink/BDSM, other religious minority, etc.)” Yes. There is space for you and you’re naming an area where more voices are needed. Message me about specific resources so that I can support your EFT journey.